I love my home group. And if you don’t think you have the best home group in the world, you might want to reconsider. Every Tuesday night I get to see all my best friends in one place. I try and get there early to chat, hang out, and help set up. I’ll stay late to help clean up and chit chat some more. Then usually hit up the diner for the meeting after the meeting.
More importantly, I try to think of my home group as a party at my own home. Does everyone feel welcome? Am I reaching my hand out to the new person? Is everyone being taken care of? Am I making an effort to try and learn everyone’s names? Do I talk to the same people every week?
It is my job to make sure everyone attending my house is being taken care of. I can easily get swept up in seeing all my friends or living in (self centered) fear and not wanting to talk to a new person. According to Traditon 5: Each group has but one primary purpose – to carry its message to the alcoholic who still suffers. My primary purpose is not to make friends, drink coffee, or catch up with old friends (although these are great secondary benefits). At my home group I am responsible for the suffering alcoholic.