I have heard it said that “meeting makers make meetings” (and nothing else).
You know who I’m talking about? Ok, maybe you don’t. One form of a “meeting maker” is someone who just attends a ton of meetings. They maybe aren’t in the literature or really working the steps as extra-curricular activities, but they are in EVERY meeting you attend. Also, when they share, umm, well, let’s just say it’s the same old lip service.
For me, meetings attendance is a critical component to my recovery from alocholism. In my first year of sobriety, sobriety was EVERYTHING. I made easily over 400 meetings that first year, plus working the steps, fellowship, daily readers, and book studies.
As time has gone on, I go through phases of making enough meetings and pushing the envelope and paying with my sanity due to low attendance. I can allow all of the blessing of sobriety to get in the way of my meeting making, and I pull out the book of excuses…
I have work tomorrow.
I need my rest.
I’ll go tomorrow.
There aren’t any good ones today.
I’ll just read my daily meditation or a book.
Too many meetings makes my life unmanageable.
The last excuse is my favorite. My disease uses my own program against me. Got to love it! Truth is that I still need to attend meetings, LOTS OF THEM. In response to my recent extra stressors at work, I STEPPED UP my meeting game, and it has made all the difference. I have found through plenty of trial and error that I NEED four meetings a week to keep getting better. This MUST be coupled with burring my nose in the literature, working the steps, and staying connected to my network.
I am more grounded, and I am not sweating the small stuff. When I am in meetings, I remember to stay connected to my higher power, and most importantly it gives me a break from being the most important thing in my world. Thank God.
How many meetings is enough for you?