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Meeting Makers

I have heard it said that “meeting makers make meetings” (and nothing else).

You know who I’m talking about? Ok, maybe you don’t. One form of a “meeting maker” is someone who just attends a ton of meetings. They maybe aren’t in the literature or really working the steps as extra-curricular activities, but they are in EVERY meeting you attend. Also, when they share, umm, well, let’s just say it’s the same old lip service.

For me, meetings attendance is a critical component to my recovery from alocholism. In my first year of sobriety, sobriety was EVERYTHING. I made easily over 400 meetings that first year, plus working the steps, fellowship, daily readers, and book studies.

As time has gone on, I go through phases of making enough meetings and pushing the envelope and paying with my sanity due to low attendance. I can allow all of the blessing of sobriety to get in the way of my meeting making, and I pull out the book of excuses…

I’m tired.

I have work tomorrow.

I need my rest.

I’ll go tomorrow.

There aren’t any good ones today.

I’ll just read my daily meditation or a book.

Too many meetings makes my life unmanageable.

The last excuse is my favorite. My disease uses my own program against me. Got to love it! Truth is that I still need to attend meetings, LOTS OF THEM. In response to my recent extra stressors at work, I STEPPED UP my meeting game, and it has made all the difference. I have found through plenty of trial and error that I NEED four meetings a week to keep getting better. This MUST be coupled with burring my nose in the literature, working the steps, and staying connected to my network.

I am more grounded, and I am not sweating the small stuff. When I am in meetings, I remember to stay connected to my higher power, and most importantly it gives me a break from being the most important thing in my world. Thank God.

How many meetings is enough for you?

-Z

3 thoughts on “Meeting Makers

  1. First off, I really appreciate the gung-ho nature of your recovery. I was the same way. Especially in the first year, sobriety was all I had, all I wanted. But, I have a bone to pick with the meeting makers make it thing. I find that (if you’re in 12-step recovery) the people who make it are those that work the steps. Meetings are important, but what the program is is the step work. That’s what I don’t like about that slogan. Meetings are bandaids, which are needed. But the step work is that vital surgery.

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    1. Mark I TOTALLY agree. I was trying to put into words that exactly! I have totally been caught up in the other side of justifying not enough meetings with step work, and I am finding much benefit to doing more of both lately. Thanks so much for sharing!

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  2. When all this started there was only one place to go, Bob’s house. And they came from all over. They tossed drunks onto trains in Chicago, New York, Cincinnati… most ended up at Bob’s house where he had pigeons working the steps. 5 to 6 days later, we had recovered and were meeting the people coming to Bob’s. Eventually, we had to go pay the piper at home and we left. Bob had an open door policy and we were always welcome back. As we grew, it became a challenge. Clarence S (Home Brewmeister (1-3rd edition) story) started the first AA meeting. Back in the day, we worked the steps, helped drunks, got involved and then went to meetings. This pattern fostered the large growth spurt AA had from the beginning.

    The convenience of hitting a meeting a day avoids the importance of our own desperation and recovery. When I started, I had a sponsor the first day and was working my 4th by day 6. Making amends at 2 weeks sober. Hitting meetings, pouring coffee, going on 12 Step calls and cleaning the halls bathrooms. The book says the our reliance must be on a higher power. Meetings are a good place to start but they will eventually fail me. AA isn’t a place, it’s a book, a series of prayers, promises and directions.

    My favorite line from the book — It works, it really does.

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