It has been my experience that first comes physical sobriety. Second comes emotional sobriety. I find emotional sobriety to be an illusive little sucker. I often give it away without even realizing.
Right now, AA life is good. My family life is good. Physical health good. Work is nuts. I have a high bottom problem scenario going on. It’s been a hectic few weeks with at least a few more to go.
When I start to find myself in a situation, I call my sponsor for advice. I’m quickly approaching 10 years and almost 10 months sober, and I still call my sponsor on an almost weekly basis. When I bring a challenging situation to her, she nails me with what I know as the sniff test. It’s just a quick little check list to help me keep things right sized. She has me ask myself three questions:
- Is this good for me physically?
- Is this good for me spiritually?
- Is this good for me emotionally?
They are so simple that it’s hard for me not to answer these questions honestly. If the answer is no to any of these questions, I have some serious chatting to do with my higher power and probably some changes to make.
Sniffing it over…